actually hor... wad effects ur parents have on you from young
will follow u all your life. my dad is the way he is because of his
dad... it sticks, all those hurts and scars. they all stick for
life...
sometimes, i fear the effects my dad might be having on me that i
dun even realise. and it makes me wonder if i will make a decent
gf, wife, or even mother.... 
i suppose yes, i wun put in 100% effort cos i dun believe in
marriage. it's like, if a rs doesnt end in marriage, then it will
inevitably end in a breakup, isnt it?? and since you already know
how it will end, will you still put in your everything?